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TRAINERS CONSCIOUSNESS In the discussion group - ( see: www.nexuseq.com) Josh:asked me: "Maybe you could describe more, Dhyan, what you yourself do to engage your own emotions effectively as you work with groups? I recall from discussing this that you are very conscious of the choices you are making and how you create a context for people to be honest with themselves and others." by Dhyan Vermeulen Dear EQEE net workers, Yes, conscious choices to create a realistic context and friendly, save atmosphere for people to be honest with themselves and others is a first condition for me. For me learning (in education or training or other group settings) is feeling and thinking, self in interaction in dialogue with others. In my opinion" stand still and feel" starts with body awareness. For me this is the first step to fusion, fusion in the sense of body-hart- mind interaction. In my work with groups I like to work together. So centering is a powerful tool to start a process. Not only for the trainer also for the group. We all are participants in the training process, we all (also leaders and trainers) are students in a life long learning, reciprosically. Awareness, being her and now. Starting neutral for me means: feeling first, make contact with silence inside, take time to feel what is going on in your body, hart and brain. Josh I think you do the same by asking 'to take 6seconds'? Take time to stand still: feel, focus, find (aha erlebnis- aha experience) and flow can start a joyful learning process. This interaction is fusing body- hart- mind? For me bodily emotional awareness is a need for feeling and thinking. As such emotional awareness is fundament to connect to thinking/logic - what do I feel, why am I feeling this and what are the possibilities - inspiration- action? This is what I do as a trainer (for myself) in the training and we do it together too. I don't ask the audience, we start and experience and work it out? It is a reciprocical activity for us all. The way we start (choice of context and tools) and the intensity depends on the key: "what is save for this group". That's a conscious and mindful process. Sometimes its easy to start. Sometimes it takes time to find the key for me. What to do in a group that's not save at all. Sometime the group feels like a battlefield, I feel that a lot of people are afraid in the situation but nobody can show it. That are special situations, starting with silence can be very difficult. Most of the time I don't start direct, I go out together with the group for a little walk or an ordinary slow down action in duo; "choice a partner, take a drink and tell each other: What you need to feel comfortable". How do you manage 'good start' in NON save situations as a trainer or perhaps as a teacher? Dhyan European Network on Emotional Quality © 2002-2008 |